no successful woman ever made it to the top by cleaning her house.
life can get really busy. work, laundry, social networking. we spend a lot of time with our kids homeschooling or with homework, teaching, bringing up and disciplining. with all this time with them i forget that none of it counts as “quality time” “emotional deposits” “relationship building” whatever you want to call it.
“mom, come have tea time with me.” -ok after i fold the laundry, and look at the kitchen! i don’t have time right now. i need to clean the house first. plus i have a ton of emails to answer. on and on my list goes.
sometimes we just have to stop. literally stop everything and just play, snuggle, talk, listen, have tea, and engage with our children. the house can wait, the dishes will still be there when you’re done, the emails will still be in your inbox, the laundry can wait, but my children are growing up fast – they cannot wait day after day to finally spend time with me. it’s ok if the house is a mess, orders are waiting on my desk, laundry is getting wrinkly – really it’s ok.
i have the hardest time stopping.
sometimes holidays and special occasions make it easier. though doing something special together just because has an even great impact. the nice side effect that comes from spending one on one time with my kids whether it’s a quality 10 minutes or couple of hours, is they are happier, better behaved children because they aren’t competing for my attention. this makes the time i am working, folding laundry, and answering emails a whole lot easier :)
find a few extra moments to engage with your child today.
plan something special this week for one on one time. a picnic a walk, a snuggly movie…
write them a note, “meet me for tea and cookies at seven o’clock thursday night. love mom”.
what will you do together?